This is a very healthy perspective on relationships and I fear the nuance of this view is often lost in discussions about relationships. I'm sure that if you posted this on a Reddit relationship forum, you'd get responses telling you that this is oppression or abuse, and you shouldn't put up with it.

Relationships are all based on compromise, and the art of compromise is really what makes a relationship. I love the story you tell of your mother saying "Would you just humor me and do it?". My father did the same.