It's not a redefinition at all!
Actual deletion is what Facebook told us they did; that's what everyone assumed when they said they were complying with GDPR. This is like advertising a car as 'faster than Mach 5', and then when people call you out for lying, saying, "well, 'faster' is a relative term."
This kind of crap is exactly why people don't trust Facebook. It's not because people are paranoid, it's because Facebook systematically creates expectations in their advertising and public releases that they're acting responsibly, and then acts like they're the victim of unfortunate circumstances and misunderstanding whenever they get called out.
If three weeks ago a tech journalist had written an article saying, "Facebook will fully delete your data when you ask", no one at Facebook would have been reaching out to that journalist saying, "Oh, in the interest of preventing misunderstanding, we don't actually delete the data, we just mark it to be ignored." But now that they've been caught, now it's just a big misunderstanding by people who don't understand database architecture.
When companies tell the public that they're doing something, it is reasonable for the general public to assume that they're referring to the commonly understood definitions of the words they use.