Well if you reject the assertion that parents of kids in private schools have higher than average income, I think the discussion is not fruitful.
Be it true or false, this is the axiom on which the whole debate is based. If it were not true, I think there's no economic or incentive issue with either form, and there should also be no ex-ante reason to prefer private over public schooling except for idiosyncratic preferences about the approach, given that both forms should receive equal funding.
And indeed, I think there are countries where precisely that is true. These are the ones where the public school system is considered good, and where private schools typically place emphasis on a different manner of education.
However, for the US, I think most people would disagree with you. Funding for private schools is incredibly high and driven by above average contributions of wealthy parents, whereas funding of the public school system is allegedly more than poor.