I'm sure they would love to hear from you if you can cut 90% of their hardware costs without increasing other costs.
10x cost savings is hardly unheard of.
I'd put PHP somewhere under the middle of the list of languages/ecosystems I'd like to work in again (RoR, specifically, though not Ruby generally; non-TypeScript JavaScript; and gnarly AbstractFactoryImpl-style Java are all probably worse than it, IMO, and of course PHP deep in anything like Wordpress is pretty miserable) and I like Go quite a bit, but there's no denying that if performance is a top criterion PHP should probably be on your short list when choosing a language/ecosystem, and if PHP's not going to cut it then probably no scripting languages are on your list, and you're very likely looking real hard at C++.
Also adult site’s performance is insanely read heavy. They can cache the shit out of content and whatever is behind that doesn’t have to be the fastest. That model doesn’t apply to all software needs.