It's not only distracting but unnecessary. The English language has a perfectly usable way to avoid gender-specific pronouns: just use the plural. "A good CEO knows his/her values" becomes "a good CEO knows their values".
In Ben's case, he's making a political statement, so the use of "her" is appropriate in that instance though.
It's actually been in English for a pretty long time, there is plenty of precedent. The people that complain loudest about grammar "mistakes" are often the least equipped to talk about them.
https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Singular_they
That said, constructions like "didn't realized" are best avoided.