Why are we anchored often?
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With practice, you can de-anchor discussions simply by re-framing their anchors using new principles.
e.g. Anchor: "Given your current salary is probably around $50k, we think you're way underpaid and we will offer you $52,500, which is a %5 raise just for switching jobs! You can thank me for getting you this incredible deal by signing right now."
Re-frame: "I really appreciate your initial effort on this. We can't disclose my current salary here because my employer treats it as competitive information and I'm still a member of this team so I can't really comment on that. Let's move the numbers discussion out a bit, and get a sense of the value I can provide in the role. However, looking at the glassdoor and city cost of living salary data for your company, the range you suggested is just below the average salary for other people in the role. I can solve one of your major problems with my unique experience out of the gate, which would take at least a quarter to six months in learning curve for your current team."
This simple re-framing is, destabilize the premise (their guess of your salary), add 2 new objective principles of a) competitive information, and b) glassdoor/city data source, then provide them with relief from the instability stress you created using a soft sweetener (offer of hidden value) without even coming back with a number. This is a simplified case, but you get the idea. So yes, anchoring, but now that you see the reframing to your principles (a new anchor), it's much less of an obstacle.
A bullet dodged without much effort.
I honestly assume they simply selected for (as you said) pushovers or potentially liars.
The idea of negotiation as an empirical process of value discovery, not sure, it might be mine, and the process of walking back the premises and then adding principles is a rhetorical device that originates in Socratic dialogue and seems to have been picked up by critical theory types as a dilution/diffusion technique, but covered and observed in a bunch of different places, some of them probably a bit culty. The idea of negotiation as a dialogue is the artifact of the old stuff, whereas I think it has changed, and while useful, you had to accept the assumption that the affairs of the world were decided by dialogue and reason. It was written before Twitter.
Compressing it this way is mine. I've been accumulating notes for an advanced negotiations book for years, maybe it's finally time to write it. :)
"People are irrational. Example: You wouldn’t buy a new dress, or suit, that costs $100 (‘that’s far too much to spend!’) but you would buy one that was $300, but is now ‘reduced’ to $150 (‘but just look at how far down it’s come!’) Sound familiar? You’re not alone, it’s fairly well-known that humans are irrational (at least by those in advertising- some products in supermarkets are never meant to be bought- they’re just there to get you to buy other products more), but are other animals just as irrational?
Hummingbirds, starlings, and even bees have been shown to be irrational. But what about organisms even smaller than bees? A recent study1 found that even slime moulds (brain-less creatures, which live in damp places like mouldy leaves and logs) can be irrational."
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/not-bad-science/think-y...
This really implies something fundamental but I can't guess what.
No, I will not. $25 for track pants I would perceive as cheap. There is no way in hell, no matter what overpriced items you show me first, that I will perceive $300 for track pants as "cheap".
I know where you're coming from, but you also have to accept that you have anchored yourself at the $25 price.
If I go into a Toyota dealer, they can’t actually anchor my reference price of a Toyota sedan to $250K by putting a window sticker saying that on a Camry.
"A Toyota dealer in Baltimore is offering a brand new 2020 Supra Launch Edition for a nice, round $100,000 – an eye-watering markup of $42k over list."
https://www.carscoops.com/2019/07/would-you-pay-100k-for-a-2...