"Always" is a strong word. Usually it just means you noticed some things that you dislike [1]. The problem is that we're all far more likely to notice such cases and to weight them more strongly, so before long we've sample-biased ourselves to "always". The other side feels the opposite "always" [2]. Same mechanism in both cases. It always feels like the mods are against you, just as the refs are always against your team and you're always the one who gets pulled over for a speeding ticket.
[1] https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que...
[2] Here is an example I just ran across: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19956161
also https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20136743