I would like to suggest that the attempts to solve 'toxicity' in social media are actually an attempt to relativize the latent, normalized, usual-amount white supremacism, heteronormativity, ableism and patriarchy that most makers -- being privileged enough to have the resources to make -- are filtered for ahead of time.

Put a way that you find easier to read: You're halfway between 'oh shit I'm like that' and 'yes I appreciate the needs but we couldn't possibly XYZ' and you, like everyone else, is having to pick a side. That's not 'toxicity', that's just the ongoing war. And for those of us whose survival depends on the outcome, the war is not figurative; it is quite literal.

Beware, your bias is manifesting.