I mean I'm glad you had your light bulb moment but that doesn't always happen, does it? Furthermore, the issue isn't that "they're not all going to be saved, no matter what you do," the issue is that society gives up on them before they even have a choice. E.g. their elementary school has its funding cut, their after-school programs are cut, they family is broken and/or abusive--why are you expecting a child to grow up and learn how to make the right decisions?

And as for making the right decisions--I have a few issues that have worked hand-in-hand to keep me from having a long and stable relationship. I know which bad decisions I've made in the past, I know as I making them that they're bad, yet here I am, single and at 31! It's something I'm still trying to work through. So having said that, I am not going to judge someone for their bad decisions if I can't always pick the right path myself. And I'm sure you're not always sticking to the right path, either. I mean, I'm sure there's a billionaire out that there could go through your life decisions and judge you for not having a fleet of yachts yet. It's easy to be like "don't do meth!" and then not do meth, but I don't know what those people are going through that they thought that meth was a good idea. I don't want them in jail for it, either. I think there are far better options.