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What is it about hacker culture that places women on a pedestal and encourages fawning, obsequious devotion and sacrifice to them? Relationships should not be about master/slave dynamics, yet geeks seem to relish this dynamic more than I've seen in any other subculture.

The man in this article has already castrated himself for his wife; this +15 comment suggests that unquestioningly bending to the indomitable will of his wife was not enough?

What's next? Recommending cuckoldry as a solution to satisfying his wife's sexual needs?

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> The man in this article has already castrated himself for his wife... What's next? Recommending cuckoldry as a solution to satisfying his wife's sexual needs?

Wow.

Um.

Daaaaamn.

Unresolved issues much?

Without knowing the couple in question, I could see any number of potential explanations that indicate a co-equal relationship. Let's enumerate some:

- Trying to cut back on expenses and reduce debt, need to watch out for each other's impulsive spending

- Saving for big vacation, remember?

- Return it you oaf! (Your birthday is in a month and I already ordered you the best one)

- Hey, uh, just lost my job. Sure we want to keep it? That $600 is a lot of bills

When you're sharing your life with someone else, finance is a team sport.

"${Partner} said no" is also more acceptable then "Decided I shouldn't have bought it, don't judge me".

Probably the reason is a higher percentage of gentlemen than you might meet elsewhere.

Still single, huh?

Not that this will prevent baseless, ad-hominem, assumptive comments from being posted and voted up on this site, but...

I've been with a lovely woman, who enjoys being treated like a human being instead of a deity, for over four years.

The same baseless, ad-hominem, assumptive comments about the man in the article, right?

You're jumping at ghosts - and IMO there's something concerning about reading that far into so little information. The fact that he had a disagreement with his wife and returned the iPad doesn't imply being castrated, obedient, dominated, or otherwise enslaved. The fact that you would jump on this possibility as a default is a bit concerning.

And you're saying she's never talked you out of a frivolous purchase, and you've never talked her out of a frivolous purchase?

None that I can recall. The closest we ever get to this behavior is some light chiding.

That is quite unusual, but not for geek relationships, for MANY relationships. There seem to be a non-insignificant amount of people who accept their partner making decisions for them, regardless of their wishes.

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