The video you linked to compares lakes and oceans because the lunar tides vary with time. The lake level difference between Cleveland and Buffalo at 6 will be the same as the sea level difference between New York and Providence at ~5:30. You need to compare your sea level to the sea level a quarter of the way around the world to understand why your local sea level changes from 6:00 to 12:00.
No, the forces are completely different. If we have an object on the surface of the earth that has enough mass to roughly produce the same nearby gravitational acceleration as that felt by the moon (which is minuscule and undetectable by most instruments), that object would not produce changes in ocean levels as we see with the moon. Again, the oceans are not rising/falling due to the moon's gravity pulling on them. It only happens because the moon is far enough away that its tiny gravitational acceleration on the earth is (1) felt everywhere on earth, and (2) felt everywhere on earth in slightly different amounts.
For a smaller, closer object (even with similar nearby gravitational acceleration), the tidal forces will not be the same because that gravitational acceleration will fall off to near zero in a very short distance.
[1] Even the claim about the ice sheet (and its melting) contributing significantly (via gravity) to global sea level change seems dubious since, as noted elsewhere in this discussion, the Earth Gravitational Model appears to be affected much more by factors other than ice sheet thickness or surface features.