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One of my favorite lines from Fight Club: You are not a unique and beautiful snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile

The real world is cold. It takes time, especially out of college/uni, to realize this, but you have to keep on pushing. Best of luck to you.

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A tough lesson I've learned is most people simply don't care. They don't wish you bad but they don't wish you well that much either - they simply don't care.

This isn't a good or bad thing; it's just most people, the vast majority of the time, don't particularly care about what you're up to.

Long term friends do, of course, at least a little, but in perhaps limited doses.

This is both saddening and inspiring (liberating), depending on how you look at it.

Unfortunately many people DO care. They care to push you back down. No-one likes the deep guilt of watching someone make something better of themselves, and some people reconcile that by trying to make you fail.

I learned this lesson after my recent business failure. I spent months working extremely hard to get the doors open only to find that no-one cared I was there. I didn't neglect marketing but I didn't push hard enough either. I think I got caught up in the fact that because I cared, everyone else would too. It's a very sobering feeling when you're standing in an empty shop on opening day wondering, "where is everyone?"

Lots of lessons learned there!

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