I used to be the type who asked a lot of questions until I realized that formulating the question was often more important than getting the answer.
I used to be the type who asked a lot of questions until I realized that formulating the question was often more important than getting the answer.
Or do you mean ‘fae’ as in fairies?
Edit: speeling
Many years ago when I was designing and programming embedded controllers (early '80s) I worked alongside, but not with, another engineer who was building devices using the same fundamental components (6520, PIA, etc.) In our tea breaks we would explain our problems to each other. Neither of us suggested any solutions to the other or responded with anything other than simple platitudes and sympathy for each other's troubles. It was remarkable how many problems had simply vanished by the end of the tea break.
I can't keep track how many times I has an idea that got me unstuck while peeing in the bathroom.
But once you’ve put in some substantial effort, taking a break and a walk (or a sleep) is often the critical last step.
Rubber ducks don't ask questions.
The weird part? I have a strong feeling that more and more often (luckily not too often yet) my request seems to be considered outright hostile and it causes significant irritation. I wonder if anyone else has noted the same or am I just getting old and grumpy...
I’ve asked people to not give me dimensions for a work request over the phone because it leads to potential for transcription errors and mis-hearing...
If you type it out and send it to me, or write it down and send a photo / scan, and it’s wrong... that’s your fault.
And they seem genuinely put out by me not wanting to be responsible for a mistake.
Humans need handling.
It's a bit sad, but understand that people have different backgrounds and education. Perhaps their schooling, back in the 1960's / 70's, did not prioritize writing skills? It's just really odd to me because every single job I've ever applied for always said "must be able to excel in written communication", so why should the standard for my colleagues be different?
Maybe excels at written communication is how everyone else is doing it (bullet points, spelling and grammar mistakes) and we are the aberration.
I find that it improves clarity. It also seems the readers respond well to that.
With that in mind, why are bullet points so bad ? they seem like a simple technique to simplify writing.
I've found that bullet points come off as really aggressive in communication.
1. It could easily come across as "my time is more important than yours". 2. Depending on what they are asking for and how urgently they are treating it, they might not want a lesson in solving their own problems. They just want help fixing the problem. 3. A lot of people are self-centred. Of course their problem should be your top priority and you should drop what you're doing! /s
...So yeah, I'd be surprised if it didn't get a bad reaction sometimes. Perhaps seek to promote this approach when their problem is resolved. I would imagine they would be more receptive then.
Well yes, if someone comes to me to ask for help, that means they weren't able to solve it by themselves, but expect me to have the skills, knowledge or experience to help them solve it. So my time working on this problem is obviously more valuable than theirs, because I'm expected to fix something they weren't able to.
So I think it's fair to ask them invest the time to provide a proper description of the problem, before I invest time to help them.
It gives you time to think, can decrease miscommunication and the psychological element of conversation(giving more clean space for the informational element) and increase the depth and details of a conversation.
Half of the drafts I write do not end up as published questions, just because the writing process itself is often helpful in figuring out what ever problem I have with my code.