In this case, eBay is the shop, and I'm the customer. It's like walking into eBay and when I walk in I have to empty out all of my pockets and open my phone screen to show them that no one is telling me what to shop for (VNC).
If you want to continue using that analogy, then you have to consider that everybody is blind and deaf, and checking to see what's locked is the only way to know if something is available.
> If you want to continue using that analogy, then you have to consider that everybody is blind and deaf, and checking to see what's locked is the only way to know if something is available.
About this:
> instead of waiting for the guy to tell you which one to go to?
How does that translate to TCP/IP? What is "the guy" representing? The way I see it, there is no guy.
But you can see what ports/doors are available. TCP doors are defined in the RFC and they are numbered 0-65535. Those are the ones available.
Port scanning still is analogous to trying all these doors and see which one are open.
Just because it is a lot of doors to choose from doesn't make it very different. That's why guests ask a host where the bathroom is.
When you visit a website, it's not very cool for that site to check which of all your TCP ports are open. It's none of their business.