Why? They are always wrong. Asking for a plan? Sure, because planning makes you think through things. Planning good, plans bad, to paraphrase. But estimates are always wrong and always useless, dev with 30+ years experience and I've never met anyone that can actually estimate software except in the trivial sense.
The error bar on software estimates, like solving a math problem (because they are the same thing! If you don't think so, you don't understand software), is infinite.
Although I like your quote that "conflict itself is not a sign of badness".