Most undergraduates learn mathematics in the language of sets. If they're doing algebra, then the underlying structures of their groups, rings, etc. are always sets. Same for topology and logic (e.g. classical model theory). An extreme example of this set-theoretic thinking is defining the real numbers in terms of Dedekind cuts.
Category theory, very slowly, changes this perspective. If you study this for years, you will come to realise there is more to mathematics than sets. And your way of thinking will shift. You will learn to ask different questions. For example, instead of defining things in terms of their underlying set (often breaking symmetries), you will ask 'does it have a universal property?' and so on. Note, there are still tons of reasons to use sets / ZFC, even when working with categories mostly. But I do not want to get into that and it's irrelevant for the point I'm trying to make.
Final note: the 'language of sets', i.e. the language of undergraduate mathematics, is very different from set theory. 'Set theory' is like the language talking about itself. The same goes for pure category theory.