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ses1984

If 95% of women reject your profile, would you get more matches if your profile was in front of 10 women or 10,000?

Generally it’s not 95% of women rejecting a given profile, but all women (or near enough to make no difference) rejecting mostly the same 95% of profiles and not rejecting the rest.

I.e. boosting visibility probably brings proportionate benefits to the most desirable men, but little additional benefit to the ugly/short/older guy.

Source? With 51.5% of American men presently married I have a hard time believing 95% of men are consistently rejected by every woman!

It’s 95% of the men on dating apps, not 95% of all men. The men who get married presumably delete their profile. It’s not hard to see that all of the gold had already been panned out and there’s nothing left but mud (in the eyes of the women on those dating apps).

That sounds like how hiring managers describe the tech job market.

Sellers' markets all have this dynamic.

Edit: wtf @ stripping emoji HN

It's probably a misremembering of actual findings:

At least on OKCupid, women rate 80% of men as below-average attractiveness, while men rate women at right about 50% as below-average and 50% as above-average [0].

OKCupid has since deleted the post with their findings [1], but references to it still exist all over, as does an archived copy [2].

[0] https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/

[1] https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0...

[2] http://web.archive.org/web/20100324074028/http://blog.okcupi...

It sucks that they deleted it. It's so hard to know the truth in this area because the truth offends people.

Their blog was a goldmine but decommissioned when they were bought by match.com

Maybe men just answer the question more literal and find the real average (50%). Women understand the question more figuratively. Below average is what they don't like and they don't like 80% of men.

Why even ask for above/below average ratings? What people like/don'tlike is more interesting.

Maybe he most attractive men in the population aren't on dating apps.

The trouble is it's not "95% of women reject your profile" but rather "women reject 95% of profiles" -- which is something else entirely.

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