> when recruiters call and find out I'm married with kids they can't seem to hang up fast enough.

I don't really understand why this would be the case. From a purely practical standpoint, people loaded up with a family are more likely to stay and perform in a job for income stability.

I guess if a company is looking for people to burn through like firewood this might not be the case, but I think those are the places you want to avoid anyway!