I have similar, extreme anger issues due to how I was mistreated in my childhood (both physical and mental abuse + abandonment). I get better, from time to time, and then I get worse, like a yoyo for half a century. I have made my peace with the thought that I'll never get out of it, because when my anger boils up it instantly burns every fibre of my mind and body. I worry that my children are unwittingly absorbing my anger. Thank you for writing this, and sharing with us.