Ask HN: Developers with kids, how do you do it?

Can't afford a helper.. both of us are working weekdays from 9-6. When I'm home from work, it's just catching up with my kids, house chores and then to bed.. I'm only left with short pockets of time on weekends to read/play catch up.

Feel like I'm falling far behind my readings and practice. How do I keep pace with the industry while being a parent? Is this normal?

Would love to hear from devs who are parents share your experience and how to strike a balance?

Thanks folks!