> To be clear, you're saying fields are essentially virtual mathematical notions from which emerges actual stuff?
Perhaps, but I think that's a bit unfair. There's no dividing line between "mathematical notions" and "actual stuff". For example, when you poke a bowl of jello, it springs back, so it feels like "actual stuff". But in terms of the mathematics, it's because the configuration of fields that corresponds to compressed jello has a higher energy value than when uncompressed. In other words, while we don't assign intuitive properties like "solidity" and "elasticity" to fields, the relation between the fields and those properties in macroscopic objects is quite direct!
> How and where _do_ fields "exist"? Where are they in the standard model? Intuition says maybe they reside in spacetime near particles. I have a hunch from QFT that the fields are technically "everywhere" and are merely highly excited into particles when energy transforms the field in certain spots.
Indeed, they're technically "everywhere". You commonly hear that for the Higgs field, but it's true for all others as well, such as the electron field, whose excitations are electrons.