Rands in Repose: Three Superpowers
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Rather than picking one style per person receiving the message, you need to pick one per situation. Mentoring and long term conversion experiences can use the nudge. Deadlines and trouble may require the mandate.
I had a manager that swung between the nudge and the mandate. He never had time to debate with me so I wasn't able to trust him or feel heard. Needless to say, I jumped at the chance to leave his team.
He has a lot of practical experience, and his writing has been fairly well received in the past, so I suggest it's worth taking an open mind to his stuff if you are interested in managing or leading development teams.
Free Electron
http://www.randsinrepose.com/archives/2005/03/20/free_electr...
Over time the site has largely evolved into the first public pass of content that eventually becomes part of a book.
Personally, I'm a big fan of articles that don't assume every reader is a newcomer. It's a barrier for newcomers, but explaining all of his shorthand and previous content... well, it's arguably two books worth of stuff.
I tried bringing this up in an email with her, stemming from a conversation about something else. I offered my feedback as a native English speaker in such situations. As a means of demonstrating my perceptiveness in such matters, I talked in general terms about the "kiddy grade" pun. This nudge didn't seem to work.
(If you know of the companies I am referring to, please do not post their names here! This would be indiscreet.)
However, if your nudge is directed at her core competency, and your authority consists of being a younger relative in the States, that's going to have to be one hell of a nudge.
She does branding for large chain stores, financial companies, internet-related companies. If what native English speakers thought mattered tremendously, these would have been major gaffes. As it is, I don't think that's even of secondary importance, most of the time for most of her clients. It might be of great importance if she ever lands a gig with a multinational, though. Her portfolio might chase such firms away.
However, if your nudge is directed at her core competency, and your authority consists of being a younger relative in the States, that's going to have to be one hell of a nudge.
The fact that I brought up an aspect she'd never thought of before should be one hell of a nudge. The common reaction would be to rationalize my point away. The smart reaction would be different.
The circle is complete :-). Its been my experience over the last couple of decades that the correlation between "good team" and "good manager" is 100%, and more importantly they converge reasonably rapidly to that point. (which is to say if you find yourself on a 'bad' team and it isn't getting any better, then there is a strong probability that the manager isn't operating efficiently.)