I wonder a lot about how much giftedness matters, for children below exceptionally gifted. My IQ was measured at about 150 twice, at age 3 and 15. I am definitely not exceptionally gifted - I was able to be on the cusp at some programs that had exceptionally gifted participants and I was in awe of them.

But as an adult I've never really felt limited by intelligence, but instead by motivation and social skills. So I don't know what to stress for my children. I was deeply unhappy through public school. Would I have more motivation and better social skills if the public school had been less boring and had less bullying? Would I just be more of a jerk?

My kids are in early elementary, and they are also not exceptionally gifted, but they are easily 2-3 grade levels ahead in math, and a little ahead in reading. The other stuff at school could certainly be better for them, but in ways that I suspect would be better for all the kids there.

I think I'd be happy with their school if they had more recess, the kids were nicer and the math were more advanced, but I don't know where to find that for them.