I’m Working Remotely. Can I Keep Hiding My Secret Baby?

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1 pointjbegley3 comments

This is such a stupid question haha

I mean, I can totally understand not wanting to tell people you work with.

But what is the dilemma? Either you tell someone or you don't. Maybe I'm missing something, but it seems overdramatic.

I don't think this is a stupid question. Deciding when to tell others you are pregnant is a very difficult decision. If you tell others early, it may factor into their decisions on what to include you in. If you tell others late, they may be frustrated that they weren't told earlier, and again factor that into their decisions on what to include you in. People have different expectations on when is the right time to know, and react in very different ways. It is a dilemma with no clear answer because of how varied people's expectations and reactions are.

You're right, in that there is "no clear answer because of how varied people's expectations and reactions are."

So what's the point in trying to gauge this? Either you'll find people who accept it or they won't. Seems like you'd be adding further stress to an already stressful situation by agonizing over this.

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