What perspective changes have you noticed after becoming a parent?
After some time I confided the problem with my wife. I was surprised by her reaction. She said, "you should be glad you are starting to feel normal things for the first time in your life".
Then the penny dropped. I had never been loved unconditionally in the way my wife and children loved me. It's not surprising to worry about being separated from such love. So to answer your question it was more like a brain re-wiring than new perspective.
25 years on I have a contenment about life and death. I hope my children will go on to do better things than I have done and that I can help them along the way.
The first is my willingness to make sacrifices and the extent to which I’ve gone to make sure my children are safe.
The second is my view of what’s important in life. While younger, money most definitely topped my list. Presently, being able to spend time with them is highest.
The other thing that I realize that has changed for me is the awareness that so few things are fixed.
I’ve seen how the kids try and fail, and try again. This helped me to realize that a lot of what I used to take as a given was in reality not. It’s made me more curious and willing to experiment.
As they grow, more things will change in my life.