Certainly a loss. RIP
It wasn't suicide. Does anyone on this thread (besides me) know James? People, think before you post. Somebody died.
When a high profile or public figure passes away and the announcement intentionally leaves out cod info, 99% of the time it was a drug overdose or suicide. That’s just the sad reality of these articles like this.
i don't care about details if it was accident or suicide, they could at least say if it was sudden death (unlikely caused by health at such age) or long disease
I’m not saying this is good or bad, I’m just stating a fact.
I'm talking about manners.
ps> suicide as safe guess
or
> to take care of
Edit: my most humble and sincere apologies to the initial downvoters for offering a simple correction to someone who might not write English as their first language.
Please see https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22780144.
On topic: James Taylor appears to be brilliant, accomplished and could have produced more for several more decades. What a tragic loss for his family & science.
When you post to a large public forum like HN, you're broadcasting to thousands. Public broadcasting is not like communicating face-to-face with one person. It's volatile, because the odds of somebody hearing something different from what you had in mind go way up. If you were speaking on, say, television, this would be obvious, but the medium here is more intimate. It feels like personal communication but actually is public communication (or rather, is both), which brings risks. The risks get worse as the community gets larger.
What do to instead? You need to think probabilistically. On the one hand, you're talking to a single person, the person you're replying to. But you're also talking to a statistical cloud of thousands of readers. With the statistical cloud, the question is: what is the probability curve of the reactions the community may have to this comment? If somebody somewhere gets activated, they will rush to the thread to make objections; that in turn will activate others, and off we go. That's how threads go haywire.
You're not responsible for any individual reaction—someone might just be in a bad mood, or have some weird issue—but you are responsible for the "probability curve" of your comment. The expected value of your comment is something like the sum of the areas under that curve: https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&qu...
There's no need to get the probability of a flare-up down to zero. That's impossible. You just need that part of the curve not to be too high. If your comment gets a hostile reaction from one random reader who goes on tilt for whatever reason, that's no big deal because the community won't support it. They'll contain the damage for you. But if the curve is too high, chances are that the community will take it badly—or rather, that some subset will. If the entire community takes it badly, that's also no big deal; the comment will simply be flag-killed. Such posts have a negative value, but it's small. But when one segment of the community takes a comment badly and gets activated, and then a second segment gets activated by their activation, we end up with flamewars—entire subthreads with negative value.
The issue isn't whether you intended such reactions, it's whether your comment would likely give rise to them. That probability is higher if...actually, let me put this positively: that probability is lower if your comment includes markers to disambiguate intent. There are many ways to do that, but the shorter ways are best (e.g. "off topic, but"; or "in case it's helpful"). Even just a little calibration acts as flame retardant. https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&qu...
However, HN also has felt quite intolerant to serious views deemed heterodox on more than on occasion.
It can be fascinating to look at the karma score, see it take a hit, and wonder what orthodoxy I have offended.
Redirecting out of some vague appeal to authority over English, gaps native readers can “ paper over” cognitively and non native readers won’t even know is a rule is low effort attention seeking.
You are not the topic here.
This is how people learn the subtleties of a language. We all know what this person was trying to say, but it was not the right way (even though in linguistics right or wrong are "flexible").
i don't need details if it was accident (car, OD whatever) or suicide, but I would like to know more if it was health related, it's quite selfish to hide such information which could save some lives by prevention and inform about someone's death
either keep it private within family including death itself or share at least a bit details if you go public
And I've become this once I saw people starting to die young around me, making me re-evaluate my priorities.
Am I alone?
Then two years ago, 3 people I knew died including the young son of close friends. Death used to be something for older people, now it's a clear possibility for me and my family too.
Last year I took 3 months off to travel around the world with my family (wife, 2 yo and 4 yo). Most of my older colleagues congratulated me and told me they wished they had done the same at my age (35). Friends my age were mostly concerned about work (impact on career, getting permission, etc) or convinced it's impossible to travel with young children.
Now I work thrice as hard. I want to exit this world having made a difference and having made it better.
Some (many) people chose not to have kids, they find meaning in life through other channels. This biodiversity is very welcome.
But parenthood (adoptive or otherwise) is a key piece of the human experience.
I just want to know if there are others who get the futility of the rat race just as I do.
It's still recommended to enjoy it within reason...
Currently broken (illness, but i work on), probably like your young friends .. if i am lucky some day, I hope to have a family of my own, and be able to simply sit ...
Tired of the rat race, if i could, i would simply travel to thailand, and live in a hut.
More power to you and yours, stay safe <3
edit: OP edited it to Epicurus as I posted this!
That's not to say I'm not finding time here and there to enjoy now.
But that said, I'm comfortable financially, so I can afford to sacrifice that pragmatism, AND this is probably more emotive disaffection with "the system, man" than wisdom and experience about what's worthwhile talking.
The most sobering of this was as I aged, and really began to see the ageism in interviews, hiring, selection for "regular roles" (meaning not a role where you would be a particularly specialized SME) - the ageism is really bad.
Especially in OPs/DevOps types of environments; I know that I have talked myself out of a job telling them that I had one position where i didnt have a day off in 18 months due to running an ops team and being literally on call 24/7 for 18 months.... I said that I was not interested in doing or being that any longer.
(They clearly wanted a hungry, younger Ops leader who didnt have a life or kids or would be a complete 'slave' to the role)
I don't give a crap about the SV rat race at all - which is why I left it for working in Cannabis tech (although it has its own set of problems - and there are a lot of techs who also left for cannabis and are bringing some cancerous mindsets to the industry...)
My back gets better when i dont go to work, bitter, right? Im not even old yet, and i have no idea what to do. Something inside is screaming “no.” And it feels hopeless
Id say check your youth hubris, and let people vent. Death is a bell, not a jailer.