Intel Video Shows How It Makes a 10nm Processor
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My favourite video on them is this one from many years ago, it’s a presentation by an engineer not being paid by a fab: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NGFhc8R_uO4&t=3261s
Intel tried to be aggressive in moving ahead with full nodes and has grown complacent because it had no competition on the CPU market. When their aggressive bet didn't work out they were caught pants down.
tl;dr: Mostly marketing term today. Nonetheless, the changes TSMC made are much more incremental, for example the 12nm is more of a variant of the 16nm than a full new node. Once again, this is very very expensive because the cost to equip a modern fab passed a billion dollars long ago and now runs into tens of billions. Mostly Apple is the reason TSMC could do this without going bankrupt. Also note a process node makes money for a long, long while even when the cutting edge companies have left: https://images.anandtech.com/doci/13873/TSMC%20Tech.png half of the revenue is from 28nm and larger -- 28nm (which is another half node) was introduced Q4 2011. So it's possible without Apple they could've done it but it would've required a much bigger debt load.