it's not so hard when you know how. so when a person looks at you and you feel insecure the normal reaction would be to look away. now just don't look away being conscious of this feeling that makes you want to look away. the key to overcome social phobia is body language. change your body language and the feeling will follow and slowly the phobia will get less and less. then after enough practice you become more and more open and inviting. people will start to like you because you seem to be an easy going guy always ready to talk, share and laugh. then being in company will not be a burden anymore but something to enjoy. it is so different now. I was so miserable because of this and couldn't enjoy fellowship for more than 20 years.