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Comment by jdormit | Hacker News Reader

I think "don't be an asshole" is a pretty good rule of thumb.

It’s a tough world where “ear rape” strictly falls into the “being an asshole” category.

Given that there are 470,000 words in the Webster's English dictionary, there are plenty of alternatives to show magnitude without using a word that invokes trauma in many. The 'git gud' is learning to be funny without relying on this sort of shock value. It's an asshole thing to say so, like, don't.

I really doubt that there exist many people whose traumas are invoked by “ear rape”.

I don’t doubt that there are heaps of virtue signalers who’ll pretend to be utterly shocked though, fuck those people.

It’s okay to joke about death, even if the world is full of people who have had traumatic experiences with death. It’s okay to joke about traumatic experiences, that’s just a perfectly normal coping mechanism. (Although I have a hard time reading “ear rape” as a joke about rape)

Your perspective and analogies are all wrong (which is why you have downvotes). You must not be close enough to many women who have shared the reasons why rape and rape culture are a non-joking manner. Just don't say the word "rape" unless it's serious or medical.

What’s so special about women here? I’ve spent a decent amount of time in prison where men raping men is very much a thing, rape jokes were common even among those who found it absolutely awful. (Actual rape jokes, not expressions like “ear rape”)

Is there a reason why you think that women would be especially susceptible to this besides some bizarre sexist fantasies of yours?

What you’re suggesting here is far more offensive than any rape jokes could ever be.

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