> But let me tell you as a manager who had dozens of reports over the years, I never met a single person who has refused to talk about their spouses, children, or hobbies.
How often do your subordinates say "no" to you in general?
How often do your subordinates say "no" to you in general?
"I don't want to talk about that"
"Subordinate! You will do as you are told. How. Is. The. Wife"
"She's struggling with depression right now".
"Glorious! Tell me more. Does she not eat?"
"No, she has lost her appetite and have trouble getting out of bed"
"I FEED ON THIS INFORMATION! I presume you don't have sex then. How. Does. This. Make. You. Feeeeeeel. Screeeching"
Yup, you need to get a new job.
Really, I am telling you. People love talking about their kids, pets and hobbies. In fact, a lot of times I have a hard time talking about work, because people can talk about their children for hours and hours.
This isn't a secret. Relationships develop at work, you get to know them, they get to know you, you talk about stuff. Sometimes they don't want to talk, sometimes you don't want to talk, but most of the time those conversations happen naturally.