I dont think I understood or appreciated how unpleasant being a manager is. I like working and doing actual work.

What does "incompetent" even mean. Dealing with personnel issues or actually doing valuable work? You get pulled away from doing things of value by having to deal with the interpersonal things that you don't want to do. But you have to do them because people are people. As a result, some of those same people get slighted simply because you can't possibly please everyone simultaneously while also trying to be valuable.

Management is a morass and I admire anyone that is actually "competent" at it. I don't envy them.