At least, I'm guilty of that, I skim articles and read comments. But this post is not skim-able(?) and thus feels a lot more dense than usual.
However, I went back and read the whole thing and it's certainly worth the read.
Also the time of day/day of week.
But mostly the domain name.
I always click on the article when I see it's from you.
Those intelligent and unbiased enough to learn something useful will do so. I agree with and/or have learned from almost everything you've posted. Some of those things mirror my own experiences.
I also didn't see any problem with tone, you were polite and helpful. It seems quite obvious the only problem with your "tone" is your gender. Not that you didn't know this already.
Thanks for your contributions. At least some of us appreciate them and find them valuable.
HN is always very critical, you'll see it on every article.