You’ve missed my point. I was referring to Schopenhauer‘s statement which is translated as “one can do what one wants, but can’t want what one wants.”

https://philosophy.stackexchange.com/questions/32731/what-do...

Some people are so compelled to have kids that they don’t have a choice in the matter at all.

Personally my wife and I chose not to have kids, but we know many more people who had to have kids than those who felt they had a choice in the matter.