Find places that coders actually hang out and participate. There are too many events where idea guys scavenge for the rockstar developer who will buy into the vision. "All I need is someone to do X,Y, and Z and this thing will be huge! I can't pay you and you'll only get 20% of the company."
Don't be that guy.
Go to actual hacking events. Show people what you have actually done and are trying to accomplish. They'll respect you much more for it and they'll let their guard down. You have to earn their trust. There are simply too many people out there looking to take advantage of coders to put together their "revolutionary" idea.
Edit: Specifically, look for HN meetups and browse Meetup.com for language specific events.