1. there was a guy who came from big companies at the remote startup I worked at. it seemed to me he made so many standup meetings to confirm his own importance, and because process was what he was used to. I pushed back against that need. also after the first six weeks of unquestioningly obeying everything in code review I began offering my own suggestions. he just blew up, later picked a fight with me and made it seems like my fault and got me fired.

2. at a previous job an obese boss with back problems asked me to give him back rubs and I refused.

generally I feel I push back against anyone who uses their position to push others around for the sake of power, instead of for the goal.

that let me clash with bosses i think.

I guess people have called me a jerk, treated me like one and I've been rejected at final interview stage many times despite having good skills at code and relationships so I assume it must be because I'm an awful unemployable jerk.