I think there are 2 issues here, and it's making the conversation around it difficult.
First is the impact to "professional astronomers", and from what I've seen this group won't be impacted nearly as much as the other. This group has the ability to use satellite based telescopes, or has the tech already to be able to filter/post-process the images to remove satellites, planes, meteor showers, and any other stuff that might get in the way.
Then you have "amateur astronomers", this groups is likely to be impacted by starlink. This group doesn't have access to the digital filtering stuff that the "big guys" do, from what i've seen, most of the people in this group just use normal long-exposure setups and adding in a processing step would mean a pretty significant change to their process, and probably a lot of additional costs.
Even still, the impact to amateur astronomers seems limited to when the sats are in sunlight, which traditionally isn't a super popular time for stargazing (although I may be wildly wrong on this, as I've read that these sats are removing up to 1/3 of the normal viewing time for some astronomers, so don't take this as gospel), and I still think the impacts will be a lot less doom and gloom than some are saying, but I still hope that SpaceX can work with the astronomy community to see if there are solutions or mitigations that can help everyone out.