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Hmm, I'm not buying all their arguments. From the article: "However, the extent of the problem is not funny...Almost half of the women have been asked out. "

On college campuses, probably 80-90% of women have been asked out. Does that prevent women from going to college?

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Yes but there are major differences: - In college you're not interacting only through the Internet - Even though you might be popular, you're not going to have that many guys asking you out. - But the main thing is at work, or when practicing your hobby, you're not expecting to be bugged very often by people probing for a relationship...

"But the main thing is at work, or when practicing your hobby, you're not expecting to be bugged very often by people probing for a relationship..."

Thats silly, for many folks (for good or for ill), it is through work or their hobbies that they meet new people.

Not quite. You're socializing (including taking on new hobbies) to meet new people, yes. But you're not passioned by your hobby (say History or computers) because you want to socialize ... And if you're into say long distance running that's not to have all the guys -who otherwise might have run faster- start slowing down just to look at your butt ...

At both places I worked that had women (admittedly, both colleges), women were asked out. I'm told it's not uncommon at regular jobs either. What fraction of nurses (an 80-90% women profession) are asked out, do you think?

As far as I know, women are asked out at many hobby activities as well. I know people who have gotten dates at critical mass, rowing, the gym and some sort of "Free Palestine" club. I'm told that even church is not an unreasonable place.

This "men asking out women" problem seems quite pervasive.

I wish I had the problem of those women (being asked out too often).

Look at it on the bright side: since you're forced to ask, at least you get to choose ... :)

Choose your rejection wisely? ;-)

It's easy to say that, but I once went to a gay bar with some girl friends and gay friends of mine. At first the attention was somewhat flattering, but it didn't take long before the people leering at me and trying to get me to dance with them when I was uninterested really started to bother me. At that moment, I was enlightened.

I know what you mean, but I still think it is the better problem to have: too many wanting you vs too few.

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