Sure it's a big deal. They gambled on a house and lost. Homeowners should not be guranteed an roi on a depreciating asset like they are in this economic climate. The housing market is irrational because of speculative investing, predatory renting, rent seeking landowners, nimbys, racist lending, etc. Each of these requires different solutions.
Would I feel bad for someone who bought a sfh and went underwater. You betcha. That's life though. Most car loans are underwater from day 1. Should be artificially restrict the number of cars on the road so car owners can sell their worn and breaking down clunker for a profit too? Should we continue to limit this dynamic to scalable profit generating schemes that disproportionately benefit millionaires and billionaires?