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What’s the incentive for attractive people? Why would you voluntarily give up a competitive advantage in a highly competitive market? If you’re ugly like me this is great.

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Doesn't seem great at all. You're just procrastinating the "reveal" to a later date where, after N amount of time invested, it might all be for nothing.

Also, that sounds like some seriously uncomfortable potential scenarios to me. Like someone who was using 10 year old pics of themselves finally meeting you at the bar. What exactly is the upside again? Getting to pretend like looks don't matter when they actually do?

As an ugly person I have a higher chance of scoring a date with someone attractive using this photoless site than I would have otherwise. Seems like a win.

You're assuming attractive people would use this site in the first place. At the very least, I'd expect the attractive to ugly ratio to look quite different on this site compared to other dating sites.

You're assuming attractive people just all want to be drooled at. Maybe they care about personality and are looking for a deeper relationship. In that case, putting up a profile pic is just going to gain them unwanted attention that doesn't further their goals.

Being attractive brings its own host of problems when it comes to finding a mate, especially if you are looking for someone you really relate to at a high level rather than someone who just scratches some primal itches.

Rubbish. Being attractive only makes things easier. Why on earth would a less attractive person have a higher chance of finding a soulmate than a more attractive person?

That you can select people that don't care about looks, which is generally a signal for someone who is more experienced, socially sophisticated and emotionally intelligent than average, and more likely to give you a pleasant experience.

Also, in case the system is selective, then you know that the other person likes you for something other than looks, which is also a good indicator for a better experience, both in a short-term and a long-term relationship.

> That you can select people that don't care about looks, which is generally a signal for someone who is more experienced, socially sophisticated and emotionally intelligent than average, and more likely to give you a pleasant experience.

That's a very optimistic outlook. The person you replied to said, "If you’re ugly like me this is great", and I think they're closer to the reality. I predict the site will be filled with mostly unattractive people that care about looks as much as everyone else.

You’re assuming that all attractive people are out to find the most attractive partner. In reality, I’ve dated people both much prettier and much uglier than me because personality is a more important factor than looks.

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