The problem with this kind of comment on a tech focused forum is that you can never tell if the person saying it is truly oblivious to context, or if they just think they can win a pedantic argument by pretending they are.

Yes, if you campaign to stop death penalty advocates from marrying or adopting children, because you accuse them all of being pedophile rapists that are destroying society and you knew that people were regularly killed for having that belief then your attack on them as being "morally unacceptable" would be textbook hate too.

There is a subtle (maybe) but important difference that you're eliding. A gay person advocates to be allowed to live their life with exactly as many rights as others, not for you to become gay. Saying that it's morally unacceptable to have equal rights is not the same as saying that it's morally unacceptable to kill someone.