It is kind of disturbing to think that your personality and many other traits make you different from other people, and there's nothing you can do about it.
It's quite disturbing to me.
It's quite disturbing to me.
There's a lot of things that you can't do anything about. I didn't grow up to a rich family and that prevented me from doing a lot of things rich people got to do, for example.
I agree that it can be disturbing that traits that you have no control over make you different from others, but its normal and just part of life. Certainly nothing to lose sleep over.
There are people with unusual levels of willpower. I am one of them and I know others. It is what it is.
You can learn new information, and you can adjust your behavior or habits based on that.
The new things you learn wouldn't have been inside your DNA/genes.
Regarding learning new information, surely the type of info you’re susceptible to, and how to act upon these, isn’t all of your choosing.
I also remember as a child noticing how adults behaved, and particularly how they treated children, or even other adults, and made a conscious effort to develop the positive behaviours I admired and avoid ones I saw as negative. This has been particularly important in bringing up my own children.
Of course the capacity to change may well be something that varies from person to person, I’m sure it does, but I also believe we all have every human capacity to some extent.
The difficulty lies in not succumbing to fatalistic complacency.
Accepting that one simply is of a heavy physique and not needlessly starving oneself sounds healthy to me. There are plenty of activities for which a heavy frame is desirable. On the other hand, giving up in the face of ones perceived insurmountable genetic makeup serves nothing.