> I get into an accident, again, work takes a hell of a back seat.
Sure, but those are unexpected and hopefully rare events. We're talking about things that take priority over work every single day.
> > Having kids is a lifestyle choice that is at odds with other choices.
> That is self evident, what is your underlying non analogy point?
What I mean to put it bluntly is that having kids means less time for other things, including work. Make that tradeoff if you want, but don't to make the negative consequences of your choice my problem.
> > If you want society to subsidize having children, then the government should do it, not individual software teams.
> Software teams are a part of society are they not?
Sure they are, what's your point?
Society should probably help out homeless people, but that means collecting taxes and providing services, not expecting individual families to invite them into their homes and feed and clothe them, etc.
> I love programming, but I have other things in life I want to pursue
Same here, but I'm not the one complaining that a team of people who don't share that requirement isn't hiring me, bending over backwards to accommodate me, and paying me the same as their top performers.