If the people you are hanging out with are judging you for your life choices then they are assholes and you should honestly call them out on it and disassociate with them.
Over the course of the year I've seen articles pop up on the supposed rise in popularity of dry bars. I've never been to one myself but I think there are a few in San Francisco and I'm sure there are some in New York. When I'm not at a bar I tend to like flavored sparkling water (a.k.a. seltzer or soda water or whatever else) but I've not seen that sort of thing in bars out here. And seltzer water has definitely not faded in popularity in New York.
Personally I'd like the THC hops stuff you can find out here, but that's typically not sold at bars and not really suitable if you're forgoing mind altering substances.