I am a really happy Windows 10 user! Please, don't judge what others (dis)like and make sweeping generalizations.
Many of the issues you mentioned can be addressed (even if imperfectly by your standard). For example, you can pause updates for over a month, then when that time is up, pause again right away. I always get to choose when my computers update.
And Windows 10 comes with many improvements over Windows 7. [0][1] Some highlights for me:
- Full boot in under 10 seconds (with an SSD)
- Dark theme
- Windows Sandbox (to run un-trusted/one-off apps in a light VM)
- Multiple desktops
- Support for new hardware innovations: NVMe, High DPI, HDR, Raytracing
But it is fine if you don't consider these improvements as important enough over the cons of Windows 10. Just don't pretend that they don't exist.
[0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Features_new_to_Windows_8
[1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Features_new_to_Windows_10