I totally sympathize with this. As the creator of PyTorch Lightning I focused on the user experience FIRST. Too many times, it seems, engineers forget that NOT everyone using these frameworks are engineers. It really is a fine balance between being opinionated but no more. But as mentioned here, even though Lightning has seen dramatic adoption, there were a few times when the result was judged on the simplicity of it without considering the significant amount of time that went into making the API super simple and infinitely flexible.

At least in the PyTorch world, the team's done a phenomenal job at allowing an ecosystem of related projects to contribute to one another and co-exist!