Dating as a foreigner in America: Everyone thinks I’m looking for a green card

Do you date people asking them if they are after for your money or if they are trying to get something from you? Or do your friends at gathering casually joke about it?

As a foreigner who dated an american in the past I agree it hurts to hear that you are after a status/GC/money when you genuinely care about the person. It is humiliating and wrong.

Your GF’a parents are just assholes. My GFs Dad and his family made me sit aside for many years while they took family photos and whatnot. They generally just accepted me as someone who’d be there but not a participant in the family stuff.

His reason, and they told me many times, was we are young and in college. You know those relationships just don’t last long so you’ll probably not be together for long. Going on 11 years.

That side of the family are assholes too.

Actually that's a lie. One of her agents Wolfgang Schwarz in Vienna stated about her modeling abilities that she was the worst model he ever represented. she lacked engagement, had no energy and spoke bad english.

she was also constantly lying about her background:

"Local biographers often criticize America’s first lady for distorting some details of her life in Slovenia. Pozar’s co-author, Igor Omerza, former deputy mayor of Ljubljana and parliament member, found several reasons for harsh criticism: “Melania Trump has said and written that her father was a ‘manager’; [her father owned a shop that sold car parts in Ljubljana] and her mother a designer—this is not true; and that she graduated from the faculty of architecture—this is not true either, she never finished university and neither did her parents.” https://www.thedailybeast.com/inside-the-cult-of-melania-tru...

But Paolo Zampolli turned her into some interesting business model. Not modeling though. But a EB-1 visa for what exactly?

Pretty sure the author is a he.

I'm assuming the dating pool is already not huge. Reducing it further by trying to find another foreigner to date would just make it really hard to find a partner.

Author is male i beleive. Also if he would shrink his dating pool a ton if he refused to date Americans.

There is no mention of the "importance" for the partner to be American. The author only describes the uneasiness that stems from the suspicion when dating Americans. FYI, If you live abroad in a foreign country for years, it is not uncanny to develop relationship with 'locals', as they tend to be the majority of the people you interact with (even in a very cosmopolitan city like NYC).