Simple solution here is to not have kids and not have a house until you pay off the student loans.
It's like saying "Ahhh you see I want a Ferrari, a mansion, and a honeymoon but I can't find a way to finance all three"
It's like saying "Ahhh you see I want a Ferrari, a mansion, and a honeymoon but I can't find a way to finance all three"
As a result, you can only make the rational choices offered to you by the system, despite the system being deeply irrational.
That's why my gf and I rent a small place with the best roommates we can find, we don't have plans for kids, and we paid off student loans as quickly as possible and continue trying to increase our earning potential in tech