The Greek and Roman philosophers had these concerns solved ages ago with the Stoics and others. Happiness comes from within, whatever situation we might find ourselves in.
And maybe a dash of Walt Whitman: https://www.all-creatures.org/poetry/ar-I-think-I.html
"I think I could turn and live with [the] animals..."
Shame though, because Stoic derives from Latin for porch. The Stoics sat and shared their ways of a happy life on porches.
Stoicism does not subscribe itself to the male gender - it is a pursuit, much like Taoism or Buddism, to reach peace within the Logos, or rather the grand chaos that is the universe itself.
Anyone of any descent or gender may become one with the Logos.