Yes electron comes with some overhead. But what you get from paying that price are products that otherwise likely wouldn't exist. Some of these are bad indeed, but some of them are also really good and provide real value.
I think that describes the attitude of electron developers toward their users, you're putting your time and convenience over them.
— https://developer.apple.com/mac-catalyst/
Literally every paragraph of copy on this page emphasizes them as native apps.
and then the app is never written
the overwhelming number of indie apps that are cross platform? Let me just go ahead and try to use inkscape and gimp on my mac.
Don't use anything that provides portability like C or Objective-C, that's not really "native" to the CPU architecture.
.. I know that sounds silly, but you're advocating for that one layer up. It's a very good analogy I think.
People use electron in order to "compile to" native apps for linux and windows and mac without having to write the app 3 times.