I read elsewhere theorizing, that kids from more secure backgrounds will delay more likely as the delay has been rewarded in the past. Whereas, if every dinner is fighting over scraps, they will probably take the initial marshmallow
https://www.theguardian.com/education/2018/jun/01/famed-impu...
This really resonated with me. As a child I use to eat my food "in order", saving the best part for last. Now I'm thinking about all the instances where I've delayed gratication in my life. I've always saved money at an above average rate but never really made this connection before.
What's the connection there you're implying [1]? I would think that the higher (capacity to) save is an artifact of peer pressure/ecosystem effects. If a frugal person is still expected to have a big house, or else be seen as weird, that imposes a constraint that forces a lower savings rate than they prefer.
It's a hard Gordian knot to cut, but once everyone expects normal people to pay a certain expense, you can get stuck in that kind of bad equilibrium.
[1] between "some people always burn through everything" and "people in some poor countries have higher savings rates than in rich countries"